What is all the hype about? You hear that forty is the new thirty, but I really wonder if maybe it's just the old fifty. Why is turning forty such a big deal? I entered the new phase of forty this month, and it seems so many make a big deal about it. So I have to wonder is forty worth all of the attention it gets?
People who have already entered her doors tell me it's the best years. They no longer let so many things bother them. They get the bigger picture of life that they know what matters most and so on, that forty comes with a confidence that they had not yet possessed before. Ask some still early in their thirties, and it might be like entering the dark side, it's all down hill after forty. Life might even be over for some. You get the picture; you've heard it all before.
While I'm still too new at forty to say either way, I tend to lean with the forty is better than thirty crowd. I know that I left my thirties already feeling better than I entered them. I turned thirty, six weeks after giving birth to my second child and I had a two and half year old toddler. I was trying to figure lots of things out and was super-tired to boot. I would be bothered by all of the little things, not just some of them. I stressed over everything.
As I enter forty I don't stress over near as much as I did before. I find that even when I am stressing over something, it's much easier for me to see a light at the end of the tunnel than it would have been for me ten years ago. I also have discovered that there are a lot of things that I just don't care about any more. They don't have the same importance to me that they did ten or more years ago.
At forty I have a better grasp on my friendships, and of my desires for my life. No, I don't have a bucket list, but I do have some goals and aspirations for the next 5, 10 and 15 plus years of my life, many of which I didn't have before my late thirties. Living life isn't about how much I can accomplish or cram in to it, but about how I live my life.
It seems that I don't really have an answer to this age-old question. I guess it depends on your perspective, so for some life may be over at forty; for me I think it may just be getting to the good part…it'll be fabulous!